I have been on this earth forty years now.  The older I get the more I realize there are so many things I need to learn (and I am enjoying life’s journey more every day)!

So what would I tell my younger self ? Here, in hopes that it might be helpful to you on your own journey, are 10 things I wish I could tell my younger self:

  • You are not invincible: Sleep at least 7 hours a night, it’s ok to drink water instead of booze at a party sometimes, always wear sunscreen and don’t drive and text/talk on the phone.  Drinking alcohol, smoking or pulling all nighters every weekend will eventually catch up to you. It might not happen until your 30’s or 40’s, but it will. Take care of yourself while you’re young and spare yourself the trouble of looking/feeling WAY older before your time when you are older.
  • Spend money on experiences not “things”: Travel, take that Latin dancing class that you have always wanted to take, grab some groceries and ask your Nonna to teach you how to make pasta from scratch or tour a winery in Niagara. Remember that in the end no one will remember if you bought your clothes from TNA or Target, but will remember that great time you had up north with your friends.
  • Travel:  Travel as much as you can, whenever you can. Immerse yourself in new cultures and experience the way others live. It gets harder once you get older have a mortgage, children and responsibilities.
  • Believe in yourself: People will try to discourage you. Don’t let them. Believe in yourself, you’re smarter than you think.. Don’t be afraid of not succeeding. Be more afraid of NOT trying and living with regret. If you fall, pick yourself up, and keep moving forward!
  • You will get over him/her: He/she might seem like your whole world and you may not believe me now but time, good friends (and perhaps a great bottle of wine) really does heals all wounds.
  • Be a decent human being:  I know that this should go without saying but it is not always the case! Everything matters from the kindness you display to the way you react to adverse situations.  Be kind to everyone because you never know when your paths will cross again or who could be your boss later in life (trust me on this one).
  • Nothing is more important than your family: Tell your parents, brothers/sisters, grandparents, aunts/uncles and cousins you love them (often). You never know when someone may not be there again.
  • Love yourself: Don’t be so hard on yourself. We all make mistakes; learn from them and move on. Try to really know yourself before you get in a serious relationship or marriage. Remember, if you’re not with someone who makes you feel like the most beautiful, loveable and special person in the world, walk away.
  • Invest in yourself and your education: As the old saying goes, nobody can take your accomplishments away from you. Education is one of those accomplishments.  As well keep taking courses throughout your career and keep up with the trends in your field.
  • No matter how old you get, remember what it was like to be a kid: Remember the feeling of freedom to do whatever you wanted?  If you’ve already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can sooooo still do one. Savior that feeling. Wake up with it every day.

What advice would you give your younger self?

          Julia xox



  1. I love all of these! So true. I would definitely tell myself to love myself more. It’s amazing when you look back and realize that the person most critical of you is yourself!

  2. I like “Spend money on experiences not ‘things'”. So true that nobody will remember your possessions, but they will remember your sense of adventure.

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